My family’s tired of me exclaiming randomly, “You’re skin looks great!” Mostly, they roll their eyes while smiling just a little. I know they like the recognition, like that their skin looks noticeably clearer, brighter, and silkier. Everyone has an ego.
Even he, pictured here at a little over 4 weeks using Soothe regimen for sensitive skin, loves his new look. He’d never admit it. In fact, it’s much easier to be cynical in response to the discomfort of risking his vanity’s exposure.
We were at our friends’ house eating dinner with 8 other guests. I pulled a random, “You’re skin looks great!” after he spoke up and held the audience’s attention with his opinions (probably political) apropos of the conversation.
He smirked and said, “Of course. She’s selling the stuff.”
In the privacy of our home, he asks, “Really? Do you think so?” Yes, I definitely know so. So, why would he cast doubt on his own progress before the dinner gathering?
Well, for one, the host, who sees Pascal almost daily for the last several years, remarked, “Well, sure. He looks rested now that he’s not working,” dismissing the whole skin transformation fact.
I insisted, “And his changed skin.” I got the sympathetic quiet smiles shot at me, like, “Okay, if you insist.”
Oh, ye of little faith and attention.
Sure, they’re not experiencing the changes in living, photographic proof and daily observation. Their focus is distinct from mine. They’ve made up their minds as to the cause and effect of Pascal’s new looks. To them, he’s needed to quit that job for a long time. It was draining his life blood. I don’t disagree. But since they decided the reason that accorded with their own reasoning, they weren’t going to accept mine–especially since I’m selling it. That makes my opinion suspect, somehow–despite the truth.
That’s the way people sometimes think–plausible deniability, too. Your mind controls what you want to see, know, and believe. Until you flip the light switch on to see the subject in a new light. It takes willingness, maybe self-awareness, and an openness to the possibility of error. Ah, we humans.
But there’s still evidentiary proof. I’m a believer in what my eyes image to my brain. I see the difference. I don’t think it’s mere suggestion, either. What do you think?